Single and sort of happy
02 Jun 2009 7 Comments
in General
I am single. I like being single most of the time. I like being alone, most of the time. I own my house, I have a good job, I am in school I am happy for the most part, BUT
every once in a while, I want a significant other. Not often, usually when I am home and bored, it would be nice to have a person to chat with or not chat with (sorry bro, for that picture)
Here’s the problem. I don’t go out. That is a big issue when you want to meet someone. I mean I go out with friends, but I’m with friends, hanging out, having a good time, I’m not in the MEET SOMEONE mood. A friend of mine (guy friend, married to one of my oldest friends) said I come across as intimidating. I don’t think I do. I just know what I want, is that bad.
I’ve also been told that I’m smart and that isn’t good. Forgive me if I know that Canada is part of North America (yes, someone asked about 10 people that yesterday and I was the only one who knew the answer)
I’ve been told that if I’m not smiling, I’m not approachable. Now this I agree with, most likely- if I’m not smiling, it’s for 2 reasons
1 - I don’t want to be there but was forced – again -not conducive to meeting someone
2 – I don’t have my glasses on and can’t see so I am not actually not smiling – I am squinting.
I’ve tried personals and that – not for me. They work for other (bro and sil, I’m blaming you for this) people
I’ve tried dating services (match.com and the like, again not for me) I keep trying H-Earmoney – but it’s like eleventy billion pages and I am just not that into it.
Anyone know a nice, employed, 40-45 y/o single guy who doesn’t smoke.
If so - let me know. (and Robin – shut up- I know what you are thinking)
Jun 08, 2009 @ 08:24:45
I tried Match and didn’t care for it — it was too intimidating at the time. eHarmony’s app was far too long (though I like their Don Knotts -ish spokesperson. (Nip it!!))
A friend of mine, a woman person, said True got the highest ratings in Consumer Reports. Applicants are checked to make sure they’re really single. I’ve seen True advertised in the sidebar on Facebook.
Jun 05, 2009 @ 09:31:23
I totally love my husband, so don’t take this the wrong way.. but I truly miss being single. But yes, those times when I’m ‘bored’ it’s nice to have him there.
The ‘search’ for one is not easy. And f them if they find you intimidating, they’re not for you!
Jun 03, 2009 @ 19:11:01
I think marriage and coupleness are way overrated. I know lots of hitched up people that wish they weren’t. So I say, be happy with yourself (self esteem), FEEL happy (self contentment), be confident (about how great your life is) .. and everything else will just fall into place.
Jun 02, 2009 @ 22:13:15
Love the new look!
You can have Mister, cheap.
Jun 02, 2009 @ 21:49:48
What???? ::wink:: My age range is 30-45 so we can both search.
Does Big Bro have any friends for you?
Jun 02, 2009 @ 21:46:40
Anyone who finds you intimidating isn’t the right person for you. I think if you try too hard it won’t happen anyway so I’m not sure what your solution is exactly. Maybe you should come hang out in Queens for a few weeks and strike up a somethin’somethin’ with a Queens boy.
Jun 02, 2009 @ 21:11:47
I’ve not been single that often in my life, but there were some periods of my life that I remember being the best in my life as a single person – my early 20′s and all of the year 2000, where I traveled, had a kick ass job and hung out with some great friends. Sure, I had a g/f here and there, but nothing long term until July 2001 when I met my current wife.
While I’m very happy in my relationship and there’s a lot of good there, I feel that I could easily be single (not that I want). I think most of that in how comfortable I am with myself.
Which brings me to my point I wanted to post… A lot of the draw of attraction is being comfortable with yourself. I see a lot of that, in the brief meeting we had at TC09, but at the same time, the other side needs to also be in the comfortable mode, too. Meeting people doesn’t always require going out, but that helps. I think attraction happens not when you are looking but when you are not looking. At least that’s been my experience.